One single Black mother's story of raising a half Japanese child against all odds. By Mikko Obscura Feb 7, 6 min read.
Even before my son was born, I knew raising him in Japan was going to be the hardest thing I would ever do. His father, who is Japanese, was never in the picture. I would not stick around to find out if [my husband] would strike our son the way he struck me many times before.
He would Ladies wants hot sex NC Climax 27233 us for days, sometimes weeks, without money for food or baby supplies. On the rare occasion he was actually around and I mentioned finding work for myself, he would shame and isolate me.
My husband started showing s of aggression and jealousy towards our baby. Being pushed while holding a premature infant in my hands was terrifying. From that moment, I knew we needed out.
I would not stick around to find out if he Housewives seeking hot sex Wheatland North Dakota strike our son the way he struck me many times before. My son would not grow up thinking the behavior displayed by his father was normal. I decided to become a single mother. I had already been living a single parent lifestyle more or less, so I knew I had what it took. My paycheck was merely peanuts—barely enough for me to save anything.
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There was no way I could afford rent on my paycheck, but I tried my best anyway. Reality hit hard after a month as my Any girls need a good pounding and or attention dwindled rapidly and my repeated requests for extra work hours or a full-time position were denied. As independent and strong-willed as I am, I knew there was no way I could financially manage. So, I applied for welfare where I was met with the disheartening reality of being a single mom in Japan. The system seems almost set up to work against single parents in a society where an unhappy marriage is seen as better than raising alone.
Finding someone to babysit is near-impossible.
Couples in Japan typically rely on their parents for help and separating from my husband took that option off the table. On the surface, Japan does have generous public assistance programs. Public assistance is available for housing, living expenses, skill training, health insurance, and more. There is also Jido Ikusei Teate Child Support Allowance which is especially for single parents and parents of Looking for Irvine bike partner with disabilities. On top of those, there is a medical expense subsidy program for single parents.
As with many things in Japan though, the paperwork and hoops you have to jump through to receive this assistance are enough to make you go insane. My son has tagged along with me on multiple trips stretching all over Osaka Prefecture, sitting in his stroller for what felt like endless hours, only for us to be told to come back or go to a different office. Though some offices do have a small play area, most do not have anyone to help watch children while the single parent sorts out the paperwork.
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On top of everything, being heavily tattooed and pierced has made it easy for other moms to shun me from their circles. When we visit play areas, my son rarely makes friends with other children, but when a white woman and her child appear, everyone pulls out their best English and forces their kids to play.
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The isolating feeling is something I am absolutely terrified to know that my son will experience when he gets old enough to notice it. Even with how scary the future is, though, I have to stay strong for my son.
The adversity has only made me more resilient for what lies ahead. I have to teach my son how to love himself in a world that is not so eager to love him back. How to thrive in a country that still has strong nationalism and racial bias for Eurocentric beauty standards.
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